Counselling, in short, is a way to facilitate change, be that a change in situation, behaviours, thoughts, feelings, or even physical sensations, such as pain. Counselling has been shown through scientific research as helping to bring about change in all of these areas. Counselling does this in numerous ways: by increasing insight and understanding to what is going on, by offering alternative perspectives, by teaching tools and techniques that make changes in behaviour, feelings, thoughts, or physical sensation more achievable, or counselling can facilitate change by simply offering a safe space in which to feel and be open, without the risk of judgement. In my experience working with clients, I have found that people show a remarkable ability to recover and grow when offered the right conditions in which to explore their thoughts and feelings, conditions such as acceptance, understanding, genuineness, and warmth. Indeed, this too has been shown by science, that certain therapeutic conditions increase the liklihood that change will take place.
Change is possible, and often all a person needs is the right conditions in order for this change to come about. Unfortunately, society today is not very good at offering us the appropriate conditions to facilitate change. Society today is quite critical, judgemental, and often lacks empathy and understanding. Many people simpy do not understand what conditions have been shown to facilitate physical, behavioural, pyschological and spiritual growth. In that sense, if you feel stuck it's not your fault. Most of us were never educated about what helps to facilitate personal recovery and growth. Many counsellors, on the other hand, have studied and trained in methods that have been shown by science and psychology to increase the likelihood of personal recovery, and of personal growth.
Counselling facilitates change. If you find yourself faced with situations, behaviours, thoughts, feelings, or even physical sensations, that make you think 'I would like this situation, this behaviour, this thought, this feeling, this physical sensation to change' then maybe counselling would be useful for you. So, if you'd like to see some changes in your life, but are struggling to make this change for yourself, perhaps counselling from a trained counsellor could help.
The seeds of change are within us all, if only we can find a way to nurture these seeds, so that they may grow.